Soul mate- Myth or Reality

Have you ever wondered whether the soul mate you are looking for really exists or it is just a figment of your imagination?

Well, even I don’t have the answer to this question.

People yearn to meet the one all through their lives. Some do meet the one and some don’t.

Wiki defines a “soul mate is a term used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and compatibility.”

For ages we have been hearing about soul mate and how we wish to meet the one. But did we ever ponder upon why the word soul mate is so called?

According to a Greek philosopher, Plato, humans originally consisted of four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces. However, Zeus (Greek God of thunder and sky) feared their power and split them into halves, condemning them to spend their lives searching for the other half to complete them. (Source reference: Wikipedia)From then on people have been searching for their soul mate.

What is my take on this subject? Well, I used to believe this too. But by and by my notion about this whole soul mate thing changed. No, don’t get me wrong, am not discounting the concept. It is just that at present people get to interact with so many people that even if their soul mate would be right under their nose they wouldn’t be able to recognize him/her.

This reminds me of this movie Dil Toh Pagal Hai, where Madhuri was a staunch supporter of this whole soul mate thingy. And she did find hers in King Khan in the movie. In the same way this movie Serendipity (one of my favourites) is based on the same concept. Nevertheless, how many of us can claim that the person we share are life with or are intending to share are life with is our true soul mate. I bet we can’t!

We expect that there is one person who will love us just the way we are. This person would complete our life with qualities that are missing in us. Instead of looking for Mr or Miss Right why can’t we just find the happiness within ourselves? Why build false hopes that the next person will add meaning to our life. Why can’t we make it meaningful and worthwhile ourselves?

Deep down I feel that because of this over-hyped concept of soul mate we build are expectations way too high. We expect so much from our other or better half that this over-expectation leads us to misery, hopelessness, unhappiness, and discontent. People fall in love and when their expectations are not met they fall for someone else, assuming that may be he or she wasn’t my soul mate after all! And then this never ending hunt for Mr or Miss Right continues. Why can’t we become soul mate of our partners, working through the challenges of our lives, rather than looking for a soul mate? We can build mutual trust, love, and respect for our better halves and make a relationship perfect rather than looking for a perfect person to set our lives right.



P.S: A couple of days ago, I read somewhere that human being is polygamous by nature. Wonder if this is true, how many soul mates do we have to look for?

Yet to be named...

Where do I look for you, my beloved?

Don’t you know that my heart aches in your absence?

There are moments that I would like to overlook and

There are moments I would like to reclaim

I try hard to wipe you away

But you keep coming back;

in the waves of the ocean,

in the chirping of birds,

in the rustle of leaves,

in the sweetness of honey,

in the radiance of the sun,

in the soft glow of the moon,

in the dew drops on a leaf,

in the melody of a song,

in the silent prayer that each day I offer to Lord;

to spot the promise of return in your eyes, to fill the empty space and heal my aching heart

Silent Love

The love I have been dreaming of is so close to me,

but all I can do is just watch you without words.

In this city of strangers, I lived day by day painting love!

Waiting and hoping against hope that you will be here;

to fill my incomplete life with your presence.

I know not, is it you, God, or Fate that chose to keep us apart, name it what you may;

but may be we are not meant to be together.

I never wanted to let this love fly by; but my days are numbered;

and it’s too late now... forget me not;

coz wherever you tread, I will be watching over you, silently, with a heart full of LOVE!

Longing for the Past

Like finger marks on a frosted window,

you left your first love behind.

You knew, being with you, I felt at ease,

I told you this once and you left, without a word.

You left 'love' to pursue 'reality',

you said, "I want a stable life, coz Life cannot go on only with Love!"

For months afterward, his memories were delivered in the form of a wind chime, with a note attached to it;

"I LOVE U"... I always have, but FaTe chose to keep me away from you...

Coz life is not about what you Deserve or what you Desire, but what is destined to be!

The memories that you hold close to your heart were not just yours...

I can't erase them myself, so I sent them back.

Memories that are nothing; yet mean everything!

Smitten by Hallyu-wood

I will never fall out of love with at least something and that is Korean movies. At the mention of Korean movies, there are a few who think that my taste for movies has gone for a toss. But believe me, if you just watch one of the romantic Korean movies, you will vouch for it for sure.

Besides horror movies I like movies with emotional subjects. When it comes to handling emotional subjects I believe Hollywood movies take a back seat to Korean movies. There are movies which leave you with a heavy heart, yet you like watching it over and over again, such as My Sassy Girl and A Moment to Remember. For those of you, who may not have watched My Sassy Girl, am sure you might have watched the Bollywood version of it called Ugly Aur Pagli starring Mallika Sherawat and Ranbir Shorey. As far as My Sassy Girl is concerned the Korean version has the right amount of humor and heartfelt emotions unlike Ugly Aur Pagli. It’s a delightful romantic comedy. But there are many more movies which can bring tears in your eyes. Windstruck is one such movie.

What I like about Korean movies is that the narrative elements are simple, with great humor. The female characters are portrayed as strong and independent and the male characters are portrayed way to sweet. The visual aspect and the background score make it worth watching. If you enjoy watching light headed, romantic comedy then you must watch the movies listed below. Do add to the list if you feel I have left out any.

§ The Classic (5 star)
§ Windstruck (5 star)
§ A Moment to Remember (5 star)
§ Seducing Mr. Perfect (5 star)
§ My Sassy Girl (4 star)
§ Sweet Lies (5 star)
§ Almost Love
§ A Millionaire’s First Love
§ When Romance Meets Destiny
§ Jenny and Juno (3 star)
§ Unstoppable marriage
§ My boyfriend is type b (4 star)
§ Love so divine
§ April Snow (3 star)

Sweating it Out!!!

People frequent gym for various reasons. Of late I started visiting a gym. Initially I was enthusiastic about it. But after 3-4 days the flame of enthusiasm started to flicker. Oh no why do I have to drag myself to the gym every day. How do I keep myself motivated to work out?

I realized that one should set one goal at a time; otherwise the whole purpose is defeated. One should not think of losing weight and start noticing the result within a few days. Exercising regularly and following a healthy diet will obviously work wonders. But who is going to leave that yummy mouth watering food to lose weight?

What is the workaround for these issues then?

- try not to focus on losing weight, instead try to enjoy your workout
- try not to overexert your body and expect immediate effects
- try to keep your body well hydrated. Drink lots of water before and after exercise and sip little water during exercise
- enjoy the music to relax during workout
- look at numerous other people who are sweating it out to keep you motivated
- eat your favourite food but in small quantities
- time each activity, do not exceed more than 30-45mins of exercise initially

Exercising not only acts as a stress buster, it helps you stay fit and in good shape.

Happy exercising!

Good v/s Evil

Here comes another story depicting the victory of good over the evil. In this movie the tag line says the mystery continues. The story tries to potray that the good has always been winning and will continue to win over the evil. The victory can come either in this world or from the other world.

But I fail to understand, why do we need to use evil as a means to reach God. Why don't we believe that God already exist. Why don't we believe that there is some kind of supreme power that controls all the activities in our day to day life, one who keeps track of all the good and ugly deeds which we indulge in. I know people who are complete aetheist. They neither believe in God nor believe in the evil. And these people make fun of other people's belief and faith which is sad but true.

I have a different take regarding this topic altogether. I feel that when we indulge in any activity whether it is good or bad, God, the supreme power and if nothing else our conscious self keeps track of all these deeds. So when we commit a sin we pay a price for the same in this world itself. I feel every human being (barring the mentally challenged people)is aware and can take a call on what is good and what is bad. I am not preaching any religion nor am asking people to believe that both God and satan exist.

The point that I am trying to make is-- why indulge in something which we know in the back of our mind will have serious consequences in the future. Why not assume that there is somebody who is watching over us and to whom we can look up to for guidance.

To wrap it up I would say that we should try and think twice before we perform any action (good/bad) to do away with any dire consequences in the future.